Total transparency? This one is a doozy for me. I have been a control freak most of my life. In my defense, I am a Capricorn and kinda wired that way. I never use things like astrology as an excuse, however, so I have had to learn to overcome my desire to manage everything when it comes to outcomes.
One of the things we talk about in our NLP trainings is that once you have set a goal or have an outcome in mind, you must let go of your attachment to it. That is not to say that you sit back and do nothing, you get into action right away.
It is more about letting go of your attachment to the exact form and manifestation of the outcome. As a type A self-identified “doer” I have, at times, wanted to micromanage every aspect of a how a goal manifests and what I have found is that the universe, and the powers that be do a way better job of handling the “how” than I ever could.
Most of the time, when you do let go of your death grip on the how and allow things to unfold with ease and flow, the how is 10 times better and easier than anything you could have imagined or tried to manufacture.
I am not saying it is an easy thing to do, but it is necessary for living a whole-hearted, resilient, and empowered life.
We have to trust. We have to have faith that if we have followed the 4 requisites for change, let go of our baggage, set a goal, gotten into action, and are maintaining our focus, that the “how” will be revealed to us. And if we try to force, or muscle our way through it, we will often miss an opportunities to manifest the goal faster and more efficiently because we were too busy trying to control the outcome.
So, how do you do this? Be in action and remain open and flexible. Remember that one of the presuppositions of NLP (the mindset of successful people) the Law of Requisite Variety which states that the person with the most flexibility will be the most successful and in charge. So, at some point you do simply need to let go, trust, and “let God” as they say.
Do the work, and keep your eyes, and ears open for other ways and means of getting there. Open your mind and your heart to every possibility. Keep your focus on your desired result while staying in Hakalau (expanded peripheral vision) and you will be astounded at what shows up for you.
So dear one, from one control freak to another, I invite you to try this on. I can tell you from experience, it is WAY more fun!
From my loving and surrendering heart to yours…
With Aloha,
PK
